More than a Game - October 12, 2021
We can learn much from losing and in fact we must learn much from losing. Losing is like taking a test in school. We take a test to see what we know and what we don’t know. Thus we look at the questions that we missed and try to find out why we missed them. This is critical to the learning process; learning from our mistakes.
Tests are not meant to make us feel bad about what we don’t know, or make us arrogant about what we do know. It is as an assessment of our grasp of the subject, nothing more and nothing less. Tennis is the same way.
When we lose we must reflect on how ethical and honorable we were in the match. Next we need to evaluate our critical thinking, creative thinking and problem solving in it. We need to know how well we controlled our emotions during play. How well did we execute our strokes? How well did we deal with the unknown? Ultimately we need to know if we reached our full potential and if not, why.
In order to get the right answers that will help us appraise our performance, we must first ask the right questions.
Here is a small sampling of some of those questions we must ask ourselves to help us evaluate our performance:
- What percent of your full potential did you reach today?
- How well did you solve problems that occurred today?
- Did you tank or quit on any point or at any time in the match?
- Rate your stroke consistency in the match?
- What did you learn today that will make you better from this experience?
- What should you remember next time you play this person?